You Can't Hurry Love: My Autistic Perspective on Being Single on Valentine's Day A.D. 2025
Happy Valentine's Day, regardless of whether you're in a relationship or not!
"But Mama said, 'You can't hurry love. No, you just have to wait.' She said, 'Love don't come easy. It's a game of give and take.'" - The Supremes, You Can't Hurry Love
For those of us who are single, lonely, and/or suffering from self-esteem issues, Valentine's Day can unintentionally rub salt in our wounds, reminding us that there's a kickass party going on next door that we're not invited to. For years, I've grappled with such emotions, with each Valentine's Day serving as an annual reminder that I'm another year older and no closer to finding love or marriage than I was on any of the Valentine's Days past. Being autistic and suffering from social anxieties doesn't help matters, either.
Still, I've come to the epiphany that there are worse things in life than loneliness or bachelorhood, such as being stuck in a toxic or abusive relationship, which can be difficult for those in such situations to escape and sometimes end in tragedy. I thank God that I have my health, a roof over my head, live in a progressive country, and am blessed with a loving and supportive family, a jackpot for those of us born with lifelong disabilities.
I prefer to focus on all these positive aspects in my life, rather than dwell on my lack of a romantic partner, which is a strategy I'd highly recommend to anybody struggling with living the single life and their feelings of loneliness. Happiness must come from within, so be yourself, do whatever makes you happy, and never lose hope that you'll find that special someone someday, when you're meant to find them.
In closing, I rejoice for all my relatives and friends who are either dating, engaged, or married, and wish them and their romantic partners much happiness. All that matters is that their relationships be safe and healthy. I still believe Ms. Right is somewhere out there, and that I'll eventually find her when the time's right. Until then, I'll embrace my singlehood and celebrate Valentine's Day by eating a few yummy, heart-shaped chocolates, playing some fun video games, and sharing a new batch of Valentine's-themed GIFs (for a limited time only). Thanks for reading and Happy Valentine's Day, regardless of whether you're in a relationship or not!
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Posted in "Autistic Perspectives" on Friday, February 14, 2025.